What is growing up? Becoming tall, thinking deeper, acting mature or is it just us knowing how to act and feel because of what we have been through our life’s’ on this earth.
Adults, adolescents, kids. What sets them apart? Is it the responsibilities that pile up as we grow up that determines us apart from the younger generation? Is it thinking about the others before thinking for yourself that says it? Each person has a variant way of explaining it and thus it becomes harder to define.Young at heart, older at mind are things we quite often hear or say. What do these really mean? Do we mean they have not grown up or they have? What is the measurement we use to justify the scale of growth?
Looking at life from where I stand, I would say it is not just one thing that solves the question of growth. For a human, there is primarily two types of growth. The maturation of the body and mind. One is at a biological level while the other one is at a psychological level. The physical appearance might give away the average age at first sight, but the mental maturity can only be told once the person starts speaking his mind.
But growth does not stop there. It speeds up when responsibilities come knocking at the door, and this can happen at the right time for some while earlier or later for others. Life experiences is another major contributor to a person’s growth mentally, and it enhances his perspective and opens up his field of thoughts and opinions.Even though we might not want to admit or understand, our actions have a subconscious involvement in our physical as well as mental enhancement.
Think happy, be happy, and take it one stride at a time. You do not need to grow quick, neither do you have to whine for the gone days. Each year that adds up brings on something new and unexpected. Our body changes and our mind does too. Enjoy the moment while you have it and let’s keep it honest with ourselves, shall we? 🙂
Grow up to be proud of all those years, not tired of living itself.
Love. A word that has a different meaning to each and every individual on this planet. Now the meaning changes can either be good or bad, depending on the person and situation. Some perceive love in a good light while others do not.
The bad perception may come from life experiences of oneself or others close to them. Bad breakups, witnessing or hearing something that goes against their consciousness, or seeing people around them hurt due to this phenomena, has people wishing and hoping for more out of this so called ‘love’.
These people do not want to understand love, neither do they want to feel it. They just want to be left alone in their own zone. Not believing in love sounds insane to some, but can be very real for others.
The existence of love is proved in many beautiful cases around us, but ‘love me not’ is a phrase some might use to keep themselves from getting hurt, angered or anguished.
“Learn to love yourself to love another”.
There are times you indulge and there are times you don’t. Be it emotions, moods or your feelings.
At times you want to make a difference with your actions, other times you are scared to and there are times that you are forced to. All these different scenarios and their consequences can have varying effects on our emotions. It can either be good or bad depending on the situation likewise, but when they do get expressed negatively, they might come flooding out like the breakdown of a dam.
When we do try our best and do not get the results we expect, we are disappointed at ourselves. We do not explicitly address the disappointment but go ahead and get it out in the form of anger, directed at ourselves but in most cases, aimed at the people around.
Then comes the time when you are scared but forced to do it for the sake of yourself or the people close to you. Its either a success or a failure. But in both cases your nervousness and incapability of knowing the future, force you to let your emotions brew until some moment presents itself, to be a slave for your tirade. Success in the matter can put you at ease, but the experience you went through is not easily forgotten.
Letting your emotions get the best of you might give you a sense of calm for the first few minutes when it all comes crashing down. But when the waters clear, if you havent fixed the problem already, it is not going to repair itself. Even if you have found success, you might have earned it at a price of losing people close to you.
The next time you want to hold it all in and keep going, just make sure you are going the right peaceful way.
Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.